Last June, I wrote a piece entitled “Notes to a Potential Girlfriend.”
That piece was all about me.
This time, I’m fantasizing/riffing about who I would like that potential girlfriend to be.
She would be, more or less, as follows:
- Any adult age; though if you’re much younger, be aware that I don’t stay up ’til 2 as often as I used to.
- Any ethnicity, skin color, or hair color.
- Won’t try to convert me into becoming a Christian, a vegan, a stoner, or a Libertarian.
- Will let me keep my “room of one’s own;” will let me keep it messy.
- Will let me hold, more or less, to my odd (but never deliberately so) tastes in food, music, apparel, and entertainment. Will let me continue to own and use a television.
- Believes in gender equality, in BOTH directions.
- Allows my needed daily work-at-home time.
- More into soul-melding, intimate lovemaking than porn-style fucking.
- Progressive populist, not alt-culture elitist. (i.e., not a square-basher.)
- Not a female me, which couldn’t exist anyway. A complement rather than a clone.
- Notices things I don’t notice. Knows things I don’t know (which covers, I admit, a LOT of ground).
- Has an open and voracious mind.
- Cares about people and the future and stuff.
- Sees the heart and humanity in other people, no matter what their niche or lifestyle.
- Has eyes that light up the night, and lips to melt into.
- Equally at home in social and private situations.
- A “city mouse.” (I’m not moving to Bainbridge.)
- Preferably not currently married. Preferably.
- NS/LD.
- Preferably without preteen kids (but that’s not a requirement).
- Preferably without implants (but that’s not a requirement).
- Isn’t looking for a guy with money (goes w/o saying).
- Isn’t looking for an “enabler.”
- Doesn’t need to conform to others’ standards of “nonconformity” (ideology-wise or fashion-wise).
- Tells me what she wants; doesn’t just expect me to already know.
- Relatively free of psychotic episodes.
- Centered, self confident, and comfortable in her self.
- Believes love is more important than self righteousness.
- Believes in herself, in others, and in me.
